WHY do people (the ladies mostly, I think?) put themselves through the pain and agony of watching depressing movies, listening to sad songs (which seem to repeatedly and intuitively play on the radio as if your life is now a broadcasted musical) especially when going through a break-up or another difficult time?
It makes no sense to me...I've been through a couple break ups, one of which was a little harder to swallow than the other, and so I decided to try a different 'moving on' method. Usually, I'm not one to stress over anything for long. I let whatever/whoever bother me for a little while and if by then I haven’t arrived at a solution then I move onto staying busy with something else.
But I was curious. Since almost everyone else I knew did it the “other way” I decided to give the tear-jerking movies and music a shot. 30 secs into the song I was itching to hit the 'next' button; I held on a little longer but about a minute later I changed it. It was constant reminder poking at me, “Hey just in case you forgot…your ass got dumped!” And it brought up all these emotions I didn't want to feel. I had enough to be :'( about and now I'm adding to it???
So I went back to my way of handling headaches and heartaches - staying busy with work, school, on the (tennis) court, weekday and weekend girls'-nights-out, travelling, trying out new fitness classes, etc. Sure, I definitely shed plenty of tears (I am human) over it but I could never sit alone in my apartment and drown in my sorrows for too long. I'm not saying that I'm right and that this is THE WAY to handle a break-up but it worked for me. You could argue that it's a temporary fix and I couldn't contest that because a few months later we ended up getting back together. And I’m glad I didn’t have the chance to wait and find out which way is healthier to completely get over the person and move on.
I've learned that time is the healer of most wounds (I don't want to say all, just yet) and a little patience and prayer will lead you to the answer you’re looking for. All in good time, right? So why stress till then – pass the Goose over this way! CHEERS
*AND by the way I still havent watched P.S. I love you - maybe someday I'll be sick of being happy and want to cry?!?
x
Mel
It makes no sense to me...I've been through a couple break ups, one of which was a little harder to swallow than the other, and so I decided to try a different 'moving on' method. Usually, I'm not one to stress over anything for long. I let whatever/whoever bother me for a little while and if by then I haven’t arrived at a solution then I move onto staying busy with something else.
But I was curious. Since almost everyone else I knew did it the “other way” I decided to give the tear-jerking movies and music a shot. 30 secs into the song I was itching to hit the 'next' button; I held on a little longer but about a minute later I changed it. It was constant reminder poking at me, “Hey just in case you forgot…your ass got dumped!” And it brought up all these emotions I didn't want to feel. I had enough to be :'( about and now I'm adding to it???
So I went back to my way of handling headaches and heartaches - staying busy with work, school, on the (tennis) court, weekday and weekend girls'-nights-out, travelling, trying out new fitness classes, etc. Sure, I definitely shed plenty of tears (I am human) over it but I could never sit alone in my apartment and drown in my sorrows for too long. I'm not saying that I'm right and that this is THE WAY to handle a break-up but it worked for me. You could argue that it's a temporary fix and I couldn't contest that because a few months later we ended up getting back together. And I’m glad I didn’t have the chance to wait and find out which way is healthier to completely get over the person and move on.
I've learned that time is the healer of most wounds (I don't want to say all, just yet) and a little patience and prayer will lead you to the answer you’re looking for. All in good time, right? So why stress till then – pass the Goose over this way! CHEERS
*AND by the way I still havent watched P.S. I love you - maybe someday I'll be sick of being happy and want to cry?!?
x
Mel
aaww . . .
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